I’m sure you’ve heard about a group of wonderful people who embrace body positivity. These lovely people who are of different body shapes and sizes are trying to change the distorted perception of beauty deeply embedded in the modern society. I’m convinced that at some in your life you wondered if you are adequate, good or beautiful enough. Maybe you’ve spent years on changing your diet and adjusting excercises to achieve the ultimate and perfect look which can be seen in miscellaneous magazines.
I adore working out myself but I have stopped killing my dear body and mental side for the sake of transformation. I was tired of seeing ‘transformation pictures’ of people who lost/ gained / maintained weight claiming that their lives have become a miracle wonderland. Have they really? How can I know that your life has changed for the better after you dropped few pounds? I can’t assess your life based on your physical appeareance because I can’t see what’s within you and your mind. You are the only person who can conclude if you are internally happy and fulfilled. I excercise and I do it for my health, body and mind. I only do it to keep it in a good condition. I consider my body to be a temple and I want that temple to look the way I want it to be. I might be overweight, underweight or I might fit within the BMI norm. It doesn’t matter, what matters is that I’m at peace with my weight, shape and size. I embrace it and I want you to try to do the same. I want you to stand in front of the mirror, get naked, look at yourself and tell yourself that you are beautiful and unique, nobody has a body or mind like yours because you are one and only, you are UNIQUE.
You live your life fully, you think you are doing well, you have overcome so much, you are extremely proud of your strength and then baaam… one string of negative situations caused by the presence of a toxic person in your life brings you down to the very low ground. You feel, sad, lost and defeated. You have lost the joy of life and the sadness is eagerly devouring your self- confidence and self- esteem. If you could you would compare yourself to a whale who can’t swim and who is in the middle of the ocean drowning surrounded by active waves and ripples. You keep asking yourself- How does one human being can make you feel miserable? Deep inside, you know that they must be very unhappy with themselves and they simply take it out on you to make themselves feel better. You may pose as a strong person outside by responding appropriately to every situation ( because you a smart as hell) but inside you are crumbling. You are falling apart because you are unable to express yourself emotionally, you emotionally binge and stuff your innerself with feelings and when you are finally at ease e.g. at home with your loved ones you explode because you feel so sad & lost. You are scream for help by being an unhappy cluster of emotions and you forget that your loved ones are supportive, they console you, give you advice but won’t take your bullshit and they will not support your whining because they love you and care about you deeply. Focus on the positives and do everything in your power to resolve the situation with a negative person. If you can’t isolate yourself from them try to remain as much assertive as you can. Remember you are loved and you must focus on the positives because you are UNIQUE AND BEAUTIFUL BEING.
What we see in the mirror, what we feel like and how others visually perceive us differ.
Is everyone beautiful despite their looks? What about the beauty standards?
Everyone is unique, in my opinion, there is no ugly or less attractive in general. Obviously, everyone has their own preference in regards to the physical appearance. The concept of physical appearance has been distorted by media which imposed on you ‘an acceptable’ female and male body image. Social platforms are booming with pictures, mantras and affirmations which suppose to transform your life and help you to achieve the ultimate goal which is a perfect body. That perfect body is suppose to change your life, make you happy and fulfilled. This is pure delusion to me. You know why? Because first of all you are BEAUTIFUL and UNIQUE the way you are. There is noone else like you in this world. It doesn’t matter if you are underweight, average weight or overweight as long as you take care of your health, spiritual- mental side of your being along with respecting yourself you are doing just fine. Learn to love and accept yourself because once you do it your life will become more vibrant. You know why? Because you will begin to live in peace with you and the universe.
Peace within yourself creates balance which has a huge influence on your life. It attracts the positive energy which charges your immensly powerful potential.
If you look at the picture above you can see a creature murdering the poor anxiety stricken head. This is ANXIETY. Anxiety strikes unexpectedly, everything can be going well and all of the sudden you become paralysed with the brutal and panicky reality of inner fear.
I want to help you to realise that you are not alone and there are few simple ways to cope with the attack.
I have listed 5 SELF- HELP rules which will help you to survive the episode of anxiety.
1. Breath- inhale and exhale – at least five times. You will instantly become overwhelmed with a sense of relief and temporary enlightenment ( Yes, I’m actually going to live) due to your brain receiving enough oxygen.
2. Take it slow. It’s easy to say… and guess what… It’s easy to do too!!! Focus on the basics, go through your daily planner and limit it to bear minimum.
3. Self-care. Limiting your plan for the day will not only take some of the stress off your shoulders but it will also allow you to REST.
4. Rest. Your mind is exausted and it drags your body along putting it in a state of emergency. Sit down, lie down and breath !!! You and only you matter in this moment. If you are in the public and you can’t go home, please, follow these few little tips :
look around and acknowledge the present moment and the surrounding environment while breathing
feel your feet touching the ground (press them down on to the floor to feel your body being grounded- it will give you a sense of security)
tell yourself that everything is going to be fine and that the feeling of fear will pass
5. Focus. When you feel better do something which relaxes you. It can be anything from listening to music or making a peanut butter sandwich !
Remember that you are a wonderful and unique person !!!
Poor and innocent teenage soul on the verge of suicide due to lack of acceptance. It’s a simple game – if you don’t fit in you loose. Brought up Christian, escaped neutral believer and remained scarred for life. Your brain is complex, if you are blessed with exceptional perception of the world then you are gifted and cursed at the same time. Why? Because you are considered to be a Highly Sensitive Person who is not understood or recognised by common society. You are spat at with labels: “Shy”, “Queit”, “Introvert” and all you want to scream is- ” Mind your fucking business, you self labelled all mighty extrovert.” You want to breath and be yourself but you find it very hard in this shallow and constantly preying for your mistakes world. You escape to God in fear or in a clearer state of mind to Inner- Self trying to pick up the remnants of what’s left from your shattered soul. You feel so insignificant, unimportant and scared- like an asylum seeker from a 3rd world country. Your scarred, wounded, and decying soul begs for mercy. Your Inner-Self keeps you intact reminding you that the Universe holds your back. You keep going. You are resurrected over and over again. You find a shelter away from the society among those who care.
Abuse and bulliying scars for life. It’s incurable. Victims learn to live with mental scars but scars never dissapear. They only fade.
Make sure to take action if you suspect anyone who is a victim of abuse or bullying.
Prevent the loss of life or mental damage before it’s too late.
Your mind is your temple- simple as that. A beautiful temple which is simply the world of endless possibilities. Just imagine, an open road – this is your road, the road inside your temple: unrestricted, untouched and not damaged. This is where beautiful ideas are born, creativity resides and your fantastic inner-self thrives. Embrace your inner beauty and don’t be afraid to reveal it to the world.